As the year ends, it’s a time for reflection, not just on our journeys but on the relationships that shape our community. Too often, we focus on those who don’t show us the care and attention we think we deserve rather than appreciating those who consistently support us quietly and meaningfully. This habit drains our energy and leaves little room for gratitude, the foundation of strong, connected relationships.

Let’s take a moment to rechannel that energy. Ask yourself: Who shows up for you in ways that truly matter? It’s not always about gifts or physical presence at every event. Care is usually in small but significant actions, like checking in on you during a tough time, speaking positively about you when you’re not around, or simply offering a listening ear when you need one. These are the markers of genuine care, and they are far more meaningful than grand gestures that may lack sincerity.

It’s also important to recognize that someone’s absence doesn’t automatically mean they don’t care. Life is complicated, and people may have financial, emotional, or circumstantial reasons that prevent them from giving in the ways we expect. Instead of interpreting a missed party or lack of a gift as neglect, try to see the broader picture of their actions and words throughout the year. Care isn’t always about what’s visible; it’s about what’s consistent and heartfelt.

This season, let’s make gratitude our focus. Take time to appreciate the minor acts of kindness, such as a thoughtful word, a simple check-in, or even the effort someone makes to be honest and authentic with you. Acknowledge the friend who speaks well of you in your absence, even if they haven’t given you a gift, rather than the person who offers lavish presents but belittles you behind your back. Gratitude for these meaningful acts strengthens our bonds and reminds us of the abundance of love and care already in our lives.

Let’s end this year as a community by building each other up. Let’s shift our focus from what we feel we lack to the incredible support we already have. In doing so, we can create a culture of appreciation, trust, and kindness that will make us stronger and more united in the new year than ever. We can see the good, celebrate the care, and nurture the connections that truly matter.